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The Red Flags I've (Repeatedly) Ignored

Love, Lust, + Lessons

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Brianna McCabe, a marketing professional and professor, emerged from her treacherous 20s with enough lessons about love to fill a book. So she decided to write one. After all, she couldn't keep all that she learned to herself.


In this semi-autobiographical (ish) self-help book, Brianna puts herself on the line in the hopes of cracking the code on sex, love, and relationships, but instead learns what it means to actually love herself. She navigates the dating scene-eliminating potential boyfriends one red flag at a time-and shares all of her funny, raw, and real details with readers along the way.


McCabe's soul-baring book, The Red Flags I've (Repeatedly) Ignored, explores the relationship danger signs that she failed to see. Well, maybe sometimes she did notice some red flags, but she ended up disregarding her gut instincts that told her to flee the person or situation, anyway... but why?


McCabe digs deep in this semi-autobiographical (ish)-meets-self-help book to understand her own choices that led to heart aching and breaking by answering some critical questions - and further providing an action plan for not just herself, but readers along her self-exploratory journey.


McCabe wrote this book to heal from her own wounds, such as abandonment and "daddy issues," being bullied as a child for being overweight, feeling insecure and only attracting men who further exacerbated her insecurities, and growing up in a dysfunctional environment for a period of her life. Initially, she struggled to understand the roots of her insecurities. However, as she develops a greater understanding of herself, McCabe has learned to not only heal, but to build upon her unique strengths. By offering a self-love roadmap to readers through The Red Flags I've Repeatedly Ignored, she hopes to inspire others to do the same.


McCabe eventually learns that to first enjoy the comforting embrace of a romantic lover, you must first embrace your own true self. Join McCabe, her friends, her family members and, yes, her lovers as she navigates this almost universally tumultuous decade with compassion and humor. She turns raunchy rendezvous, roller coaster relationships, and rock-bottom moments into real revelations.

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    • Publisher's Weekly

      October 16, 2023
      In this wise and lively self-help tome, debut author McCabe, an adjunct professor of public speaking and general communications, recounts with winning frankness years of questionable behavior based on low self-esteem in an earnest effort to help others from repeating her missteps. McCabe divides her story into four parts whose titles reveal much about McCabe’s candor and tone: ”Raunchy Rendezvous” explores hookups, complete with examinations of her self-rationalizations and insight into what she’d do differently now, while “Roller-Coaster Relationships,” about unhealthy romantic relationships, blends engaging just-between-friends storytelling with practical lessons. Other sections explore “rock-bottom moments” and what she’s learned from, plus the red flags she now knows not to ignore—and the yellow ones that should inspire at least a pause (“he’s habitually late”; “he doesn’t have any friends”).
      McCabe fearlessly lays her life bare, describing how each time she thought she’d met “the one,” an event would happen to show her that she was in love with an illusion— such as her relationships with a malignant narcissist, the one with a guy who had a girlfriend he kept denying existed, and the one who left her when she was pregnant with his child and experiencing complications. She draws clear, practical lessons from these experiences, sharing what she now understands to be red-flag warnings. Among them: men asking for naughty photos much too early, generally lacking empathy, not respecting boundaries, disrespecting their parents, or asking to keep a relationship a secret.
      McCabe takes an honest look at each risky behavior and how she rationalized it at the time, notes what happened in the moment and why it was unhealthy, makes a healthy plan for facing similar situations in the future, and finally, crucially, offers herself forgiveness. Throughout, she demonstrates a commitment to self-love, and encourages readers to do the same. Readers who have struggled with self-esteem will empathize with McCabe, applaud her honesty, humor, and self-reflections, and appreciate her sharing coping strategies and a healthy path forward.
      Takeaway: Inspiring look at relationship red flags, written with candor and power.
      Comparable Titles: Marya Hornbacher, Brianna Wiest.
      Production grades
      Cover: B
      Design and typography: A-
      Illustrations: N/A
      Editing: A-
      Marketing copy: A

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